You are totally right, it was my own poor choice of words–thanks for pointing this out, I’ve made the change.

My only disagreement would be that number 5 be titled “It’s about Inter-dependency” rather than Co-dependency.

I think the school system and society in general creates co-dependency which hold negative connotations for me. Co-dependency is about control and compliance. It’s about creating hoops (control) and jumping through them (compliance).

Granted, I’m a recovering co-dependent so I may be biased.

Inter-dependency is about a community full of independent thinkers capable of working together with compassion and acceptance for the sheer joy of it. So much more real compared to creating/achieving for the gold star, kudos, or the “A” grade.

It wasn’t until I was in recovery for co-dependency that I realized I was trained to be co-dependent by the school system. Teachers love pets who are obedient and just do what they are told rather than question and follow their own muse.

Kay